You know every now and again you’ll have those moments when you realise just how much time has passed since certain points in your life? For example, reaching the end of high school, or graduating, or when you first have to pay an electric bill by yourself. These moments seem to be the moments when we step back a little and realise how far we’ve come, or, at the very least, how much time has passed.
Sometimes these can be scary. Bear & I had one of these moments simultaneously when we were driving to the Jazz Festival in Cheltenham from our hotel this Bank Holiday weekend. We were planning on catching some tunes, sitting in the sun, grabbing a tasty bite to eat, and then casually driving home through the countryside. We had reached the last day of our breakaway and had enjoyed the peace and beauty of the Cotswolds for a couple of days. It was the simple pleasures that really made it special: the gorgeous views over the countryside, the steam trains going under the bridges, the ruins of an old Abbey, the classic cars cruising down the weaving valley roads.
However, it wasn’t until our last day we realised that we’d just become a married couple who went to the Cotswolds for a romantic break, and took part in activities like Jazz festivals, train-spotting, and visiting heritage sites. We had become a married couple who went away on romantic breaks to the Cotswolds! The COTSWOLDS!
This was a shock to us as this isn’t exactly how we thought of ourselves. We planned crazy trips around the world because it would be awesome to go, we took risks, and started new projects, and didn’t think that life HAD to be all about a mortgage, cars and 2.4 children. We were sitting in that car suddenly feeling very old.
It was a great weekend, and was relaxing in the exact way we both needed, but it was strange to think how much we’ve changed in the last few years. I’m 24, Bear and I keep having to remind ourselves of our age, I’m waking up early in the morning for no reason, we have a pretty simple routine for our work days and chores, we have a filing cabinet, we’re married and actually have a 10 year plan. WHEN DID THIS HAPPEN?!
It happened every day for a long time, it happened with sensible decisions, planning, budgeting, talking, moving, and actually I’m not ashamed of it. We have made a ton of pretty good decisions and we are far healthier mentally and physically than we were 2 years ago. We are planning all sorts of exciting adventures for our lives, but we also have a ton of room to be spontaneous. It’s exciting to think about the future, instead of it being scary. I’m not excited about the past and constantly talking about what we did once upon a time, instead it’s just a lot to think about how far we’ve come.
Life is short and precious.. It’s said that hind-sighted is wasted on the old. Personally, I’m loving this stage in my life. This is the time in my life where I can see how I’ve progressed, and yet have so much more to look forward to. It’s incredibly exciting to think about where Bear and I might be in 10 years time, but for once in my life I’m not wishing time away either.
So this weekend we were a couple on a romantic break in the Cotswolds. In the next year we will also be a couple with a dog; an IT genius and an artist; a couple with friends across the globe; tourists in Greece; adventurers in Europe; a couple who are writing academic papers in a number of subjects. We are a rocking couple with awesome family and friends and so much excitement in their future. Who wouldn’t want to be that couple chilling to Jazz on the grass with a Kudu burger and crepe in hand?